We are only a few days into 2018, so some people are still going to the gym as part of their New Year resolutions, waking up early to run or trying to eat healthily. In about 10 more days most people will fail and will go back to their usual selves.
And you know what? That is fine, or at least, it should be.
Yes, most of us go back to our regular habits after after trying to ingrain new ones. We have conditioned ourselves to feel familiar with certain activities that make us feel comfortable and safe. We like comfort and that is OK too, or at least, it should be.
A resolution has no intrinsic value unless it is attached to metrics, facts you can measure and evaluate over a certain period of time: “I will lose this much body fat in this period of time by going “x” number of times to the gym per week and reducing 30% of my calorie intake for the next 6 months. That has some weight and value; the rest is just wishful thinking.
But let’s leave all that aside, let’s say you are one of the many that has failed, fails and will fail until you die. So what? As long as you can accept your behaviour and its consequences, then you are fine. And I am not being ironic here. It is truly just fine.
Since most people are overweight and experiencing some kind of chronic pain and degenerative diseases, you don’t really know how to live any other way. You don’t know what you are missing, because for you, there is more discomfort in “not eating pizza” than in your back pain, your depression or not being able to find your own penis (something to worry only if you are a male).
My point here is a simple one, if you are not going to do something about your current physical state then accept it, embrace it. Forgive yourself for your past excesses, forgive yourself for all the ones to come. At the end of the day you owe nothing to no one. you don’t have to have restrain on the table, you don’t have to have discipline, you don’t need to live healthily and you don’t have to die old (and you may still live longer than those health nuts)! It is your life and you have all the right in the world to live it anyhow you want.
Don’t think about your kids or the things you won’t be able to do or see, because those belong to a future that may never come, regardless of your level of fitness or how much “good fats” you eat. Accept the way you look, the way you move, the way you ache, because they are all your choices.
Being regretful, “knowing” that what you are doing or not doing, eating or not eating, is “good” or “bad”, doesn’t have any kind of impact on anything. Regret doesn’t alter your self-image. Feeling guilty doesn’t make you less fat or more responsible, and these feelings certainly won’t increase your quality of life.
So if you are going to be unhealthy, enjoy it. I know it is difficult to read, and it sounds sarcastic, but I mean it. Living without regret is something we all owe to ourselves. At least, without the heavy burden of guilt, you will enjoy more your food, drinks, and lack of activity. And maybe, just maybe, you will be so through and through of enjoying things so vastly, that you will feel like doing something else in your life, and perhaps, you will consider taking up a sport or active hobby to escape boredom.
And if not? You will die like the rest of us, after living your life in your own terms, without regrets!